Yesterday I went to the store for something fruity to drink, because I was too thirsty to be satisfied with water and not as thirsty that I could drink milk, and since the only things I could put in a blender where a banana and a cucumber the store was my best choice of getting refreshed. When I made my choice, I waited in line but I noticed the guy in front of me was waiting for the lady in front of him, who was not there, but elsewhere in the store looking for something she forgot.This happens a lot,which I do not understand.
If I forget something I just don't bother, because I know people,and they will get all fussy when I finally come back, and I'll be all stressed out looking for the thing and sure enough I would drop it and have to get a new one on the way to the front.
Another quick solution that people could do is pay for the stuff they got and then move over to the service-area and leave their stuff there for a minute to go get the thing they forgot without causing fusses amounts other humans. But this is just me talking.
So I'm waiting patiently since if I were to fuss about the small things I would kill myself over all the other things which is a huge waste of my precious zen-time, a lady stand behind me and the fussing begins.
First a sigh, then a moan and after about a minute of waiting her legs start to shake and so does the rest of her not so well kept body. ''I'm gonna miss my train.'' '' My train leaves at 42!''
I don't know who she was talking to, but this strange talking to oneself is not oncommon amongst agitated people. It's a way of telling people how terrible things are but seeming like you don't need them to hear it, when you actually do want them to hear it.
So after another sigh and another moan she begins the final fase of her plan: asking if she can go first. Maybe she herself is not aware of her master plan but acting like an idiot and then asking to go first is very smart because she hopes people might think she's enoing so they would want to get rid of her sooner than later. But, she obviously has never met me yet.
I'm more of a human-behaviour lover and I enjoy humans acting like idiots, so she could stay.
'' Yeah um this might sound silly (putting herself down again) , but could I go first because I'm gonna miss my train..?'' Ah, wonderful. I can tell she's not gonna miss her train by far, there is a clock in the store clearly pointing to 25, not 42, the train station might be 10 minutes away walking,but,even then,she has her bike keys all ready to get set and go, so she would make it.
Not that I care about her and her silly train ride. The guy in front of me is looking at me,
and we both understood we had been waiting for 5 minutes ourselves for the lady in front but we were not anxious and stressed out, we had all day. I turned around and said:'' If you are in such a hurry,you should have left home earlier." Well that did it, a small shock wave went from her mouth to the sides of her cheeks and she replied; "Wu...yeah..but I was not counting on a lady like that doing all that!'' And I simply added '' that's life''. And as I turned around I wondered if she was A. going to actually wait and be calm,because that's life, or B.be all moany and sighy and then leave with haste. She didn't do any of that, instead she decided to be a worthless person and waste of her own effort and stress of going into the store (in a hurry),getting stuff(in a hurry) and putting on a show(in a hurry). She LEFT.
Leaving her refrigerated stuff inside the basket everyone else still needs to put their own basket in, for someone else to sort out.Her final words? '' I need to catch my train, so thank you.''(ah,your true nature of being fake and sarcastic comes floating up)I must say all this nonsense made time go faster because all of a sudden it was my turn to pay. So I told the smiling lady behind the register that the woman left her stuff and it was refrigerated,
so she called in help and they smiled at me for telling them.
Some people think it's rude not to let someone else go first, some people think you are selfish.
But those people don't comprehend how selfish it is to expect others to bow down to you,
just because you have more to do in a smaller amount of time. They are not more important,
they are not humble nice people. They are stressed out people who only think about themselves. If I had more than her to pay for, and needed a lot of time, maybe I would have let her go first.Or if I knew she was a calm and assertive person.
But being polite is offering someone something, not giving them what they want.
And the people who demand to go first, and not the good kind of people.
